Did Joey Tribbiani tell the truth about good deeds?

Did Joey Tribbiani tell the truth about good deeds?

If you are a “Friends” fan, you probably remember the episode when Phoebe and Joey argued about good deeds and the fact that we do them to make ourselves feel better?

At the time, I don’t think I understood the depth of that argument but today, after a few years of working with various charitable organisations, I’ve asked myself many questions.

I wanted to help but had no directions. So I helped everyone I could. Sometimes benefitting children, sometimes women, sometimes the african community, etc…

It was only a few years later that I started my own social initiative for children to stay in education in congo. After my work trips in Kinshasa, I realised that there was a strong need to better the education system. My solution was to focus on what my strengths were since there are already so many charitable initiatives.

We decided that we would bring recreational activities to underprivileged kids and work with the schools directly. The first step was to convince the schools and explain why we were not just handing them money. It was though but it worked.

Today, I took a break to evaluate what I did and my contribution. I am wondering how the world is till not a better place after all these years of millions of people giving money and time to help those who are less fortunate. What are we doing wrong? Or actually, what are the charities we trust doing with our donations? I worked with two major organisations who had massive offices, properties, staff outings, and endless benefits. I stayed a week in one and it was enough for me to understand how the system worked. It is a business and we, the people, very often forget that. They do some good but they also make a lot of money for themselves. So in this case, the heart is there but money is the power that rules the system. I won’t mention the stories we hear about the scandales we hear about Oxfam, and how some charities need to better the way they select their volunteers. It is just like the catholic church and the sex scandales.

How come you couldn’t register your charity in the UK unless you had 5K minimum in your account? Can you not do good with a thousand pound? Isn’t that enough to organise a food bank for the homeless? The reality is you can. If you have one or two volunteers and you are organised, you can do a lot with not much. But again, there are rules.

To come back to the argument, from my experience, I realised that doing good deeds can be a big cliche. Doing things for others don’t always make you feel good. Am I the only one who feels this way? Am I too rational about this?

When I give back, I feel like it is my duty. I contributed. But sometimes, it hurts me and my bank account. I was once told that if you don’t share one pound, you won’t share a million. So I shared and shared and shared until I didn’t have anything to share.

Fortunately, I am a very lucky, blessed person and something usually turns out good. But it is scary to be selfless. You can’t give from an empty safe. Does it make you selfish? No.

I like to have these conversations with my friends to see how they feel, rather it is giving to people in the street or to charitable organisations. Do you trace where the money you gave go? Whom it benefits and if it is not as you imagined, does it frustrate you or do you just leave it to the universe?

Let me know…


Quotes about great failures and great successes you need to remember!

Quotes about great failures and great successes you need to remember!

Entrepreneurship is a very attractive word. It is an attractive lifestyle to those who do not know and do not understand that it is a lot of hard work, several great failures before having great successes. Here is a list of 8 entrepreneurs and their most motivational quote on business, staying focused and finally success.

1 – Oprah Winfrey 

She is among the most successful entrepreneurs of all time with a net worth of $3 billion. Life magazine has named Oprah the most influential woman of her generation. Business Week has named her the greatest African-American philanthropist in American history.

” The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but on significance — and then even the small steps and little victories along your path will take on greater meaning. “

” Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe. “

“ Often we don’t even realize who we’re meant to be because we’re so busy trying to live out someone else’s ideas. But other people and their opinions hold no power in defining our destiny. ”

2 – Daymon John

“ Everyone has an idea. But it’s taking those first steps towards turning that idea into a reality that are always the toughest. ”

“ If you don’t educate yourself, you’ll never get out of the starting block because you’ll spend all your money making foolish decisions. ”

“ The only thing more expensive than education is ignorance. ”

3 – Serena Williams

The tennis superstar made her mark as one of the greatest athletes of all time by winning her record 23rd Grand Slam for exemple.

“ I really think a champion is defined not by their wins but by how they can recover when they fall. ”

“ The success of every woman should be the inspiration to another. We should raise each other up. Make sure you’re very courageous: be strong, be extremely kind, and above all be humble. ”

“ I always believe I can beat the best, achieve the best. I always see myself in the top position. ”

4 – Mark Zuckerburg

In 2004, he launched Facebook with a handful of his fellow college students, and 13 years on, the website has more than 1 billion active users around the globally.

” The biggest risk is not taking any risk. “

” People don’t care about what you say, they care about what you build. “

” In a world that’s changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks. “

5 – Steve Jobs

Steven Paul Jobs was an American entrepreneur, businessman, inventor, and industrial designer. Jobs was the chairman, and the chief executive officer, and a co-founder of Apple Inc.

“ Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower. ”

“ Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is best to admit them quickly, and get on with improving your other innovations. ”

“ Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. ”

6 – Barack Obama

Hailed as one of the greatest presidential orators in modern history (although the title is quite contentious), Obama has a gift for public speaking even his political opponents can recognize.

” Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek. “

” If you’re walking down the right path and you’re willing to keep walking, eventually you’ll make progress. “

“ Progress will come in fits and starts. It’s not always a straight line. It’s not always smooth path. ” 

7 – Bill Gates

The founder of Microsoft corporation and the richest man in the world. Bill Gates has held the coveted position of the world’s richest man more than 12 consecutive years.

“ Our success has really been based on partnerships from the very beginning. ”

” This is a fantastic time to be entering the business world because business is going to change in the next ten years than it has in the last fifty years. ”

 “ To win big, you sometimes have to take big risks. ”

8 – Shonda Rhimes

Creator of Gray’s Anatomy, Scandal, How to Get Away with Murder, & Private Practice, her mind and work is global.

 “ I think a lot of people dream. And while they are busy dreaming, the really happy people, the really successful people, the really interesting, powerful, engaged people? Are busy doing.”

” The rule is: there are no rules. “

” Don’t apologize. Don’t explain. Don’t ever feel less than. “

9 – Richard Branson

Founder of the Virgin group in 1970, he is one of the most successful British businessman. His current ventures include virgin media, virgin trains and virgin flights to name a few.

” Entrepreneurship takes time, it is a gradual climb with inevitable failures and setbacks along the way. Very few entrepreneurs can take the elevator to instant success. “

” Take the slower route. You’ll be able to learn from your experience and better prepare yourself for a future of success. “

” Being and becoming an entrepreneur is no easy task. To set yourself up for success as an entrepreneur later in life, according to Branson, you should be in a role and at a company that will benefit you in the future. “


  • So now, tell me What motivates you?

What does it take to produce a haute couture collection?

What does it take to produce a haute couture collection?

I had the opportunity to be a guest at the Heaven Gaia haute couture show in Paris this September 2019 during Paris Fashion Week. They haven’t had one in a few years here and it was simply a bliss and an honour for our magazine. ( http://www.esimbimagazine.com )

Hope you enjoy it as much as I did 🙂

1| The collection presented during Paris Fashion week was very strong with a lot of details in fabrics, from silk to organza with embroidered designs. Where do you source your materials?

The choice of fabrics and materials is always the basis of the clothing. We prefer the natural material for the fabrication, combined with the smooth and silky silk, so that the overall garment is rigid and soft, combined with the embroidery or Chinese elements.

2| What story did you want to tell your audience?

I have been influenced by the opera culture since I was a child, so the feeling of the Chinese quintessence is always accumulated. After so many years of accumulation, I can finally present this theme to everyone. We began to explore Chinese opera culture from Kunqu Opera,which is the origin of Chinese Opera. All sorts of Chinese opera are the most representative forms of culture. Chinese opera represents the most wonderful and most thoughtful things of our national culture. The opera, born of Chinese culture, represents the essence of Chinese art.

3| It had been a few years since you showed a collection in Paris. What were your expectations for this season?

This year is the last year of our series theme of “Take turns”. Our theme for this year is “combination”, which is different and harmonious. This show is the most exciting show, and it is culturally one. At the same time, more expansion and gain in our business development.

4| What was your biggest challenge and how did you overcome it?

In fact, every year’s defile is a challenge for our team, but at the same time it is a very pleasant journey. This year’s Gaia legend team is going to do two shows on the same day. It is also a very big essay. Thanks to my team, we really did a perfect job.

5| When will the collection be available for sale? 

We can sell our clothing by request.

6| Is there a celebrity you dream of dressing?

I hope that everyone whoever loves Chinese culture can wear our clothing.

Here are a few looks of the collection…

Is racism the SS20 trend for the brand Magda Butrym?

Is racism the SS20 trend for the brand Magda Butrym?

On Saturday 28th September, after assisting to the beautiful fashion show by Rahul Mishra, I decided to rush to the Magda Butrym showroom which i was looking forward to.

I received my invitation as press early September and was very keen to discover the collection for the first time. There was only half an hour before they close so I really had to rush from Palais de Tokyo to rue Royale.
Before hand, I had a look at their Instagram page etc.., and it’s true that I didn’t see much melanin but as every fashion brand is trying on the diversity trend, I didn’t think much of the lack of dark skin people on the images representing the brand.
When I arrived, I was the only black girl in the room. I don’t know if any came before me. Having lived in a village most of my childhood, I was very very often the only black girl in the room so that never bothers me.
The first room was for the shoes. A beautiful collection displayed on “roses” as the flower is very much into the brand identity.
I could see hostesses bringing out champagne to guests but no one coming to me. Again, I didn’t think much of it since i don’t drink so I went into the next room. And there was the collection and some live models.
The collection was beautiful and reminded me of fashion campaigns of Kate Moss and Saint Laurent. Very sexy, with a rock and roll vibe, some prints and tailoring.
After walking around, taking a few pictures and making videos, I asked an hostess to show me the PR person as I wanted to know about the inspiration behind the collection. I didn’t know if the designer was in the room.
The hostess pointed to a blond girl in an all white suit, wearing Magda’s collection. She came with a look on her face, probably wondering how I landed in her showroom.
I don’t like to assume people’s thought but this was the first time that week, that I fell like I probably should have skipped a showroom.
Asia, introduced herself as the PR and straight away told me how the brand doesn’t lend clothes, or actually only to certain A-listers and bloggers. They also only do shoots with models. I thought that was fair enough if it’s the brand identity they want to preserved. All these was said in less than a minute. She wasn’t interested in who I was so I simply said I came from the magazine and gave her my card.
She was standing in front of me with gifts for the press in a branded box. A girl came to her to say goodbye and she gave her one. She gave many to other people there too. After the less than a minute conversation with me, and giving a gift to the girl in front of me, she simply said “sorry I have to go there” and went to the other side of the room to talk to other girls. I thought this was rude but I don’t like to make scenes so I kept looking at the collection. I don’t know what was in the box nor why I wasn’t “worthy” to apparently get one as the other press did.
You don’t invite people to disrespect them. If you don’t want black people in your showroom then do a background check before sending invitations. The room was cold and unfriendly. I was there for 35 minutes. Maybe I was hoping that I was getting the situation wrong. I went to a third room and asked a hostess if the designer was here and she pointed her out.
The designer was speaking with someone so I waited on the side…. 10 minutes later, because I wanted to see how this will end, a lady came up to me saying ” I see that you are waiting, did anyone walk you through the collection ?” I said no. Her name was Anya.
Her bright blue eyes were kind. She talked me through the collection and the inspiration behind it. I thanked her for that and she said she would email me but hasn’t yet. It’s ok.
I left Magda Butrym showroom feeling very very upset. I went to Poland for fashion week once and was lucky to not experience racism. So experiencing racism from a polish brand in my hometown is not acceptable!!
We don’t like racism in Fashion.
You don’t need to like me but you have to respect me, and that goes vice versa for everyone.
My cousin said when I told her the story: “what did you expect from a brand from a racist country ?” And I responded “respect, because Paris is not Poland!”
I am very disappointed of this experience and was wondering rather to write about it.
I decided to do so because it is important that things change. I never want anyone to feel as uncomfortable as they made me feel.
I am sure the brand will continue selling to its audience but as their goal is international stardom with celebrities wearing the brand.  The team at Magda Butrym should get used to seeing more people of colour. They are not many but we also walk in the fashion industry. From Naomi Campbell to Adut Akech, melanin is rolling throughout fashion and racism can’t seat with us.

9 tips: Survival guide to Paris Fashion Week.

9 tips: Survival guide to Paris Fashion Week.

Paris Fashion week this September was THE place to be!

I was covering the event for my magazine and got to meet my fashion Sheroes. I am still screaming inside. From one show to another I met Eva Longoria, Karlie Kloss, Alicia Silverstone, Jaimie Alexander, Coco Rocha, Carine Roitfeld, Alicia Aylies, Nandi Madida and Cindy Bruna. They were all super nice and easy to talk to. I am so grateful for all the opportunities to network with the brands and designers.

I had only 2 bad experiences but I really thought my first article should be about some tips to survive a week of marathons, showrooms, fashion shows, presentation, meetings and launch parties.

Rule 1: Comfortable shoes are a must

Why are your shoes important? Simply because you will walk a lot even if you go around in cabs. I wore pops on the first day and oh well, I suffered. The rest of the week I chose high knee boots and ankle boots with a big squared heel to help me get through the day. And it worked. I created simple but attractive looks for each day. I matched my clothes differently but always tried to keep it simple and classy so I didn’t feel like I was dressing up every day. It really felt natural after the third day. So my rule advice would be keep it simple but classy but always show your personality because that’s what attracts people. You can also keep a pair of ballerina in your bag, just in case 🙂

My new favourite shoe brand Chloe Gosselin 


Rule 2: Plan each day head

Each morning of Fashion week, I had a paper with my schedule for showrooms, fashion shows or whatever I had to do. Everything was in writing. The timing, the address, the date and the purpose. It really made things easier for me because once the event kicked off, i just had to pick up my paper by the day. Of course, some days may be disturb by another event doing up. Invitations are always coming especially when you have a media platform so keep an open mind and be flexible but not too much. Keep on your schedule and meet the brands that are important to your business if you have one.

white blank notebook
Photo by Tirachard Kumtanom 


Rule 3: Get your invitations in one place

PR houses usually send out paper/cards invitations by posts. It is more professional and classy for the brand. I love them and always keep the fancy ones. I wish I put one address to receive all my invitations so nothing gets lost. But unfortunately, I was not that wise and some didn’t make it to my inbox. Most of the times, there is a guest list at the door so if you forget your card, they can find you.

women s brown and green floral dress
Photo by Dmitry Zvolskiy 


Rule 4: Take a fashion friend along

I had a “fashion friend” along with me. She took some of my pictures and I did the same for her. She loves fashion too so it was really nice to share this experience with her. It would be a waste to go to all these places with someone who does not appreciate the beauty of a runway show.



Rule 5: Check out the brand history looks 

Each evening, I was looking at the social media of the brands I would visit the next day. This helped me understand where they came from and their history. It really made the dialogue easy because they felt like we knew the brand well and of course were interested in the products.

Kimhekim runaway show


Rule 6: Test your camera or phone quality for photos

All these rules are super important. Everyone want to create awesome content during fashion week. They want to take the best pictures and so will you. Unless you have a professional photographer with you, you need a good camera. This will come handy in shooting the catwalk obviously but also your own content. With a good phone camera, you will have great quality photos even for prints. Remember that, the light is key. Don’t take pictures if there is no natural light on the subject.

Me at the Dior store, rue Saint Honore, Paris



Rule 7: If you see a celebrity

If you are blessed like me and see a celebrity you admire, SPEAK TO THEM. They are human being. Don’t just ask for a photo because some would actually take time to speak to you. Be brave. You are in the same place and have something in common: the love of fashion and good style.

Karlie Kloss, Cindy Bruna, Carine Roitfeld, Alicia Silverstone, Jaimie Alexander, and Eva Longoria


Rule 8: If there’s no seat number, you are standing or your may be out!

Yes, that is correct. You always need to check if you have the confirmation of your seat number. It only happened once but I really would not want to be in he same situation again. We had email confirmation for a show on Sunday night like many there. It was cold and rainy so not the best weather. We had to wait outside until the people with a seat confirmation comes in. But in this case, they told us to wait 5 minutes as it was Standing. I told my colleague we should leave but we were already there so we waited a bit, as did many many others in the bad weather. After 25 minutes, the very mean girl at the entrance said no one could get in. You can imagine how upset we were. A lady came all the way from New York and also had an email confirmation, but this made no difference. Moral of the story is, some PR send out more invites than seats to make sure the place is full in case people don’t show up. Don’t fall in the trap and ask about the seating arrangements.



Rule 9: You cannot wear something twice

No, No, no, you cannot wear something twice. You will also need to plan all your outfits ahead so you have no stress during the fashion week. It is always good to choose something classic, vintage maybe and a current trend that will take you through the day from one event to another. During fashion week, the judgement level is so low (ah ah ah). People feel more confident in wearing what they want so you will see a lot of colours and extravagance. I personally LOVE it!!




A cure for Ebola, Yes you read correctly .

A cure for Ebola, Yes you read correctly .

The weeks were very important news for the African community. A cure for Ebola was confirmed and we all mourned a musical genius in a tragic accident, DJ Arafat.

The end of a cursed disease?

Until this week, 11th August, there was no cure for Ebola. But Congolese doctor Jean-Jacques Muyembe Tamfum has finally acheived the work of his life. This will save many people especially the ones currently suffering in Congo DRC. The solution is called mAB114, which was developed in DRC and the United States.

This made me really proud for my country but also Doctor Muyembe has proven once more that hard work pays.



The world has lost a music genius and African artists were present last week in Abidjan to pay their last respect. DJ Arafat passed away shortly after he had a road accident (motor) which put us all in shock on the night of the 11th August 2019.


How to feel alive? Every year, try to visit a new place.

How to feel alive? Every year, try to visit a new place.



This year, I made myself the promise to visit a new country, to educate myself and face the fear that some people try to put on me by telling stories from their bad experiences. Now when I fear something, I try to find a way to just do it and deal with the consequences. The opportunity came to cover the Fashion Week in Niamey, Niger and I was really excited!

The African Union also had a summit with all the head of States and I was invited to attend the gala dinner and the seminars.

The Visa

The visa process was quite easy in term of what needed to be done. It was all online. The only issue I had was at the airport. I didn’t receive my invitation letter on time, so it took some a while for them to check through all the emails and let me through.

The Flight

I was flying with Royal Air Maroc and the flight was good. I was lucky that none of my luggages were lost but many other people on the same flights did not get their luggages for days. When travelling, I must say that I always try to keep to a minimum number of luggage.

The Hotel

We were supposed to stay in a nice hotel but due to the Summit and the lack of available rooms, we simply had the worst time I could ever imagine. From one day to another, we didn’t know where we would sleep as everywhere was fully booked. Even hotels that had cockroaches as big as a mouse running like they rule the world. This definitely made the trip very difficult but the people were so lovely that I would like another opportunity to visit the country and be able to stay at the Radisson or Noom hotel.



This trip experience taught me the importance of going with the flow. It is true to say that not everything always go as planned but there is always a reason for everything.

The African continent has so many beautiful undiscovered places. I hope to visit many more.

The culture in images…