How to feel alive? Every year, try to visit a new place.

How to feel alive? Every year, try to visit a new place.

 

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This year, I made myself the promise to visit a new country, to educate myself and face the fear that some people try to put on me by telling stories from their bad experiences. Now when I fear something, I try to find a way to just do it and deal with the consequences. The opportunity came to cover the Fashion Week in Niamey, Niger and I was really excited!

The African Union also had a summit with all the head of States and I was invited to attend the gala dinner and the seminars.

The Visa

The visa process was quite easy in term of what needed to be done. It was all online. The only issue I had was at the airport. I didn’t receive my invitation letter on time, so it took some a while for them to check through all the emails and let me through.

The Flight

I was flying with Royal Air Maroc and the flight was good. I was lucky that none of my luggages were lost but many other people on the same flights did not get their luggages for days. When travelling, I must say that I always try to keep to a minimum number of luggage.

The Hotel

We were supposed to stay in a nice hotel but due to the Summit and the lack of available rooms, we simply had the worst time I could ever imagine. From one day to another, we didn’t know where we would sleep as everywhere was fully booked. Even hotels that had cockroaches as big as a mouse running like they rule the world. This definitely made the trip very difficult but the people were so lovely that I would like another opportunity to visit the country and be able to stay at the Radisson or Noom hotel.

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This trip experience taught me the importance of going with the flow. It is true to say that not everything always go as planned but there is always a reason for everything.

The African continent has so many beautiful undiscovered places. I hope to visit many more.

The culture in images…

What my first Afro Punk event was like.

What my first Afro Punk event was like.

Saturday 13th of June, I had the pleasure of attending the festival Afro Punk at La Seine Musicale, in Paris for the first time. Headlining the concert was Solange Knowles and Janelle Monae.

I must say that it was surreal to see so much creativity in one place. It was like being on a movie set where new characters coming out of nowhere every 2 seconds. It was amazing.

I made an effort to add some African touch to my outfit as I really didn’t know what to expect there. I was definitely NOT overdressed and felt like I could have been a little bit more extra. It was impressive to be in the middle of so much art.

They had massive flags which I obviously used  to take a picture 🙂 . It was not easy with the wind but we managed to take something nice.

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Here are a few pictures I took at the event. It would be great to hear your comments if you experienced this event in Paris or elsewhere. There is another festival in the desert that I was looking into but I am not sure I will be handle to handle all the nakedness that google search has showed me.. ( ah aha ah)

 

 

 

GOLD CHOKER, Tribal jewellery from NACHO JEWELS , a label from Argentina.

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My friend came from Brazzaville, Congo to display and sell her clothing line, LIPUTA SWAGGA. If you have a minute, please have a look at her amazing work!

 

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Reasons why Rome was my worst getaway trip so far.

Reasons why Rome was my worst getaway trip so far.

I went to Rome for the first time over 10 years ago. It was an unplanned trip and I didn’t visit much of the city so I was really excited to return in May 2019 and do the photoshoot with footballer Steven Nzonzi for the cover of my magazine.

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A friend and I booked an Air B and B in Vatican City as we wanted to be able to do some sightseeing too. Big mistake. Although the apartment was lovely and close to a supermarket and a few other places, I had the worst weekend in an European capital of my entire life!

I love Italy, and I visited many places before for longer periods, Milan, Naples, Salerno, Capri, Grosseto, Florence, etc… but never I have felt the racism like that weekend in Rome. Of course, I am black and I get noticed but come on!!!!!! In 2019, can we just try to respect one another and get on with our lives?

Any coloured person I heard speak about Rome this year, had the same experience so I thought I would just write about it.

TAXIS

We had to take a UBER everywhere because Rome is actually quite big and beautiful. So much history to discover and the fantastic fresh food. But how does anyone explain a 10 minutes ride with UBER costing 60 Euros????!!!! Clearly, the Italians in Rome are like the French in Paris, rude without a cause. My best friend is Italian so I cannot find the words to say how much that weekend traumatised me.

The “regular” taxis all tried to rip us off as we didn’t speak the language so we thought at least with the rating system of UBER, things will be a bit better. The drivers were certainly nice but those prices completely outrageous. I guess, they have a reason to do this so “regular” taxis don’t get out of job. Hopefully in time, it will get better.

FOOD

The food in Italy is always tasty. But the service is another story. In London, customer service is key and maybe we are spoilt with that, same for America. But Italy has a long way to go in treating people equally with the same respect!

HOTELS

I won’t name them here but they were SO rude that we chose to rent a flat instead. NO COMMENT.

OVERALL 

We really tried to have a good time and Steven and his family made sure we felt at home.  The Vatican was simply splendid and I really wish we had more time to look at everything.

 

FONTANA DI TREVI and other places we saw…

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STEVEN AND HIS SISTER KAREN NZONZI

 

I did an impromptu shoot with my gorgeous red dress with my best carefree spirit in the middle of people staring at me like I was not part of the furniture. FUN TIMES!

 

We also had the honour the be invited by Steven to assist to his game, with his team AS Roma. Good thing, they won! And we got to see Ronaldo and Blaise Matuidi too!!

 

I hope you enjoyed the few photos. If you had a different experience in Rome and want to argue or add to mine, please feel free to share below or via email. I am working on adding content to our YOUtube Channel, ESIMBI Magazine and I can’ wait to share that later on.

 

 

How to keep it stylish during Fashion Week Paris AW19

How to keep it stylish during Fashion Week Paris AW19

This time last year, I attended London Fashion week with a friend who is a Fashion agent. My post is a bit late than usual as I had lots more events to attend than i expected.

I can definitely say that my style has changed in the past year along with my body shape. I do enjoy wearing skirts more and darker colours. Simple cuts whilst still making a bold statement… to myself. People around me always said cliche things like when you get older, you will do this or that. Style evolves in time, with our personality, things we learn and our surroundings. I just didn’t think I would now dress so simply…

Here are a few looks I chose for winter 2018-2019. I would love to hear about your favourite styles and designers.

LOOK 1: NAVY OVERSIZE COAT FROM ZARA

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Top House of CB, Skirt and Coat Zara, Sunglasses CELINE, Belt Arrogant Cat

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LOOK 2: THE BROWN COAT

Coat Zara, Belt Tara Jarmon, High Knee Boots Eram,

Bag Louis Vuitton, Sunglasses RayBan

LOOK 3: ALL NAVY EVERYTHING

Coat Zara, High Knee Boots Eram, Bag Louis Vuitton, Skirt H&M

Facts about the Kuba textile from Congo DRC

Facts about the Kuba textile from Congo DRC

Here I present my styling for the Kuba textile from Congo DRC. I got the material from the local artisan’s market and met with my cousin’s seamstress. She made a few belts for me and I am so happy with them.I previously shared the story of the tribe who makes them. I look forward to your comments.

 

What to do to impress your future boss and be prepared for that interview.

What to do to impress your future boss and be prepared for that interview.

How to prepare yourself for an interview? What to do to impress your future boss.

You’ve taken the time to look at the job specifications and decided to apply.  They’ve now contacted you back after looking at your impressive CV and have scheduled an interview with you. If you follow these steps you will always be prepared for an interview either face to face, over the phone or skype.

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Before the interview

Regardless of the type of interview you’re preparing for, research and planning are key. One question that a recruiter will always ask you is why you applied to work for their company. Saying that you need money or that you were bored at home is simply not going to cut it.

Generally, you should:

  • Consider how you’ll explain problematic aspects of your career, such as gaps in your work history if you have any.
  • Identify the skills, interests and experiences that the organisation is looking for by looking at its website and social media channels. Look at the skillset desired for the job role and match them to your experience and roles. If it is a graduate role match the skillset to what you have learnt on your course.
  • Plan your journey in advance, aiming to arrive ten minutes before your interview is scheduled.
  • Prepare answers to common interview questions, as well as your own questions to ask at the interview.
  • Find out about the people who’ll interview you. If you haven’t had time to do a quick check on LinkedIn, add a few questions about their current career at the organisation.
  • Research the issues, trends and opportunities affecting the organisation and the wider industry and how you think your skillset will make the organisation stand out from the rest.

During the interviews

An interview is all about the recruiter and potential manager trying to get a feel and an understanding for you and how you will fit into the company’s style and culture. Winning interview techniques include:

  • Positivity – Be well-mannered with any staff you meet before or after the interview. During the interview, avoid talking about any personal problems unless completely necessary (such as clarifying issues in employment gaps), and never badmouth your previous employers.
  • Body language – Give a firm handshake to your interviewer(s) before and after the session. Once you’re seated, sit naturally without slouching in your chair or leaning on the desk. Throughout the interview, remember to smile frequently and retain eye contact.
  • Clarity – Give clear and concise answers, waffling will show that you are nervous. Evidence each answer with your most relevant skills, experiences and achievements. It is ok to pause before answering a difficult question to give yourself thinking time, or asking for clarification if, at first, you’re unsure what the question means.
  • Enthusiasm – The interview is not just about your skills. It is also about you. It’s important that you allow your personality to shine throughout, as well as ask thought-provoking questions at appropriate moments.

After the interview

When leaving the organisation, let the interviewer know that you’re available to answer any follow-up questions. If you feel things went particularly well, you could email the interviewer the next day, thanking them for their time. In this email perhaps add any extra information that you think the recruiter would like to know such as your availability and chosen working hours (if a shit patterns was advised).

In most cases, the organisation will now have enough evidence to make their decision.

Don’t worry if you don’t get the job. Simply ask the recruiter for feedback, and build upon that to give an even better interview at the next occasion.

 

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11 advice to consider before you kiss 2018 Goodbye?

11 advice to consider before you kiss 2018 Goodbye?

The general mood at the end of 2018 was quite funny to me…

People all seem to struggle with the same things, bad relationships, whom to cut lose or keep in 2019, society’s opinion, finances, drama, anxiety, doubts and fear. We probably would all relate on a quote saying ” May your social media life be as good as your real one for this coming year. ”

For the first time, someone really close to me tried to commit suicide and this simply affected me in ways I didn’t comprehend. But it also showed me how miserable I was feeling by forcing myself to do things that no longer made me happy. It is hard to be honest with ourselves more than it ever was. Hard to keep the noise out with all the social media frenzy. We kinda all are living the painful life of celebrities, trying to keep up with apparences. We are buying into fake friends and fake lives even if we dont realise it straight away, unless you live in the village I grew up in :), they really don’t care about none of these and I almost envy them sometimes…

KEEP IT SIMPLE, KEEP IT REAL

 

What is the truth? Is social media bad for our health and mental wellness, or is it actually helping us to cope by dreaming and portraying the life we really want?

Tricky isn’t? Unless you believe in the “Fake it until you make it” motto of course.

This year has been challenging for me and all I wanted was to find my peace. I make to do list all year long, so new year resolutions are nothing special.

Here are the things I would like to work on to achieve that:

1/  Give up overthinking, procrastinating and holding grudges ( yeah… )

2/  Don’t raise your voice, improve your arguments

3/  Quit holding on to the past or even pleasing everyone 

4/  Do what works for you at your own pace

5/  Don’t be afraid to fail, fall or love again. This is the only way to learn more and do better

6/  Focus on progress not speed

7/  Keep your private life private

8/  Spend time with your family 

9/  Do what you are passionate about as much as possible

10/  Unfollow anything that doesn’t go with your vision

11/  Travel, Travel, Travel. The world is such a beautiful place and there is no excuse to not explore it nowadays.

All these because six months of hardcore focus and alignement can put you 5 years ahead in life. Don’t underestimate the power of consistency and desire. In life, we only regret the chances we didn’t take. That’s the truest  cliché you will read today.

 

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